Sunanda Pushkar - Some Qs & As

Sunanda Pushkar was a gutsy lady. She lived on her own terms. Her life-story shows that she was no stranger to ups and downs, having survived many tragedies in the past. Each time life served her a shock, she was ready like a shock-absorber and emerged stronger. 

I admired her all the more when I saw her life-story recently. Like most people, even I knew about her from the IPL news headlines, her marriage to the author & minister… and would never have known so much about her but for the Social Media episode followed by her unfortunate death last week.

Last Friday, I was totally shocked when I saw a tweet “RIP Sunanda Pushkar”. I was busy with my First Twitter Quiz As Curator & came to learn of the breaking-news late, that too from Twitter where the drama of accusations and counter-allegations had all begun some hours ago.

It was, and still is, hard to digest… Why would such a person with a zest for life, end her own life herself? 

But, speculations are rife… Autopsy report shows 27 tablets of Alprax have caused her death. They even looked for the absent ‘suicide note’. 

She certainly doesn’t deserve the unfair allegations/judgment or getting branded the way she presently is. As my Blogger-friend, Preethi commented, “She will be tossing and turning in her grave seeing all these comments.”

But, why was her life cut short so abruptly?  I feel she had access to confidential info... What was that secret that triggered her murder?

I always knew the autopsy reports would indicate drug-overdose/poisoning. However, I can never subscribe to the idea that she committed suicide because she was severely ‘unwell/depressed/suffering/jealous’. This is a murder-mystery where the whodunit is the moot question… Many agree that we’ll never get to know the answer…

Sunanda was not the average Indian woman. She was self-made and successful and a wealth-creator of crores of fortune. How many Indian women are that modern and go for a third-marriage? It takes guts to do what we wish to do. 

It takes courage to voice what we exactly feel in life & in Social Media. Social Media is a part of life now. In this fake world, everyone paints an ‘All Is Well’ picture, shoving everything under the carpet & putting skeletons in the cupboard, though the reality is starkly different. 

Sunanda Pushkar had the courage to ‘wash dirty linen in public’. Why would a wife speak about her partner in public? That’s when she has tried everything and feels that this is the last resort… No wife would exactly celebrate if her husband exchanged personal messages with another woman… As she exposed her husband and had an open spat, Sunanda was accused that she has “no respect for her marriage.”

This is not an image that the public wants to see. Indian women are expected to be docile and Patiwrata and shield their husband even if the latter happens to be a wife-beater, philanderer or has a mistress or even a second-wife, though that’s illegal! If the husband does indulge in extra-marital relations even if they happen to be of the ‘intellectual’ kind, it is the poor wife’s fault! People justify that the wife is not ‘good enough’ or is to be blamed for whatever the husband does, which is so unfair…

But, if the wife indulges in an ‘affair’, it’s sacrilege! Even if she is totally pure, still her character is suspected. In the Ramayana, Maryada Purshottam Lord Shri Ram had asked his wife, Devi Sita to prove her chastity by the Agni Pariksha. When Gods behave so, what can we say for the lesser mortals on Earth in the KalYug?!

But, it must be noted that Sunanda had sided up with her husband and trashed the other woman in the story, putting all the blame on the ‘Woh’ in the ‘Pati, Patni & Woh’ Twitter drama. Sunanda accused the ‘Woh’ for all her woes & for wrecking her marriage while opining that the other woman ‘stalked’ her husband and “Men are stupid anyways.”

But, Sunanda even countered her husband’s claim when he said that his Twitter account had been hacked. She stuck to the truth & owned up that she had leaked those BBM messages. She stressed that she never lies.

As per the statement released, Sunanda was very 'ill'. If yes, why was she shifted to the hotel instead of the hospital?

Why was she 'ill' in the first place?

I feel the BBM text-messages were as real as her invitations to the journalists. It is a pity that none of them heeded to her request to meet her at her Leela Hotel-room… 

In this News-Video, Rahul Kanwal speaks about Sunanda Pushkar.

Little Did She Know nor did anyone suspect that she’ll be no more the next day to narrate her story… 

Even if the Media/Police/public is all ears to hear her now, she cannot come to defend herself as has been silenced forever…

Who bruised & killed her? 

Why did Sunanda have to pay with her life? 

Being forthright, earnest and honest kills?

Will the truth triumph?

Will the guilty be brought to book for cutting short a beautiful life?

Will there be justice for Sunanda Pushkar?

Many questions remain unanswered…

This Post is not 'paid' or written under threat... All these are my own independent ideas & personal views from what I have seen and read in the past week...