A recent incident has set me thinking. This is just a Post about my random thoughts...
If there’s any problem in our personal life that we
are unable to solve on our own, then what should be our course of action?
Should
we share it with close people or should we cover it up so that no one knows?
If we share it with someone/some people, then we are
‘washing dirty linen in public’. Anything that is not 'private', is 'public'.
We risk being judged.
Also, our secret may
find its way to others that we wouldn’t like or want.
How many people can
actually keep a secret?
‘A secret is
something that everyone tells everyone not to tell anyone!’
Then, I saw this image in Twitter:
What if we don’t reach a mutually agreeable
consensus with our partner?
What if kiss & make up just doesn’t work?
Is the solution to keep the faith, hoping things
will work out?
Or is walking away the solution?
Some people walk away, not only from their partner’s
life, but from Earth itself…
Those who are strong enough not to end their lives,
end up living with past memories though trying for a hopeful future.
Wish there were solutions for every kind of problems.
And medicines for every illness.
Relationships are very delicate...
I guess the best solution is- mutual time, patience, trust,
understanding, hope, support, respect…lots of love.
May God give everyone enough strength to tide over every problem & recognize the solutions.
Here’s wishing more solutions & zero problems in
everyone’s lives.
Thoughtful post Anita.
ReplyDeleteThanks Mridula :)
DeleteAmen! Lovely post Anita... I prefer solving my problems on my own but then when things just don't work, I don't m,ind when a loved one interferes!
ReplyDeleteThanks Bushra.
DeleteThat's a good way to approach. First, try on our own and then take expert help :) Should help to solve the problem.
A thought provoking post.May not there be '0' problem but be there solutions one may find out.
ReplyDeleteThanks Vijai for stopping by.
DeleteYou are right that there never will be 0 problem. May we be wise to spot & implement the solutions.
well said about relationships..
ReplyDeleteI prefer to keep issues to myself unless otherwise it goes beyond my control. its a quite a thoughtful post, Anita.
Thanks Meera.
DeleteWe need to be strong enough to keep & handle issues on our own. Caution that we have to check & not let it go out of control...
I think sharing it with a sibling or a close friend works wonders. But more than that if we are able to put our egos away and delve into the problem, that will bring a change in perspective.
ReplyDeleteMany a times when we put ourself in place of the other person and think as to why he/she must have done what he/she did, we find it easier to forgive and forget.
Ego is a very important word, Preethi.
DeleteAlso, putting ourselves in the other person's shoes.
Sane advice. Thanks :)
Commendable post Anita. It always reminds me of the quote "If there's any problem, there's always a solution and if you don't find a solution then you are part of the problem". However, knowing and practicing is plays a vital role than expecting some miracle to happen to mend a relationship. Just like players know all the tips and tricks of a game and play well, partners too should be aware of all the tricks and tips to mend relationships than giving up hope or feeling helpless.
ReplyDeleteYes indeed. Great quote you have shared! Better to be a part of the Solution & not the Problem. Your Game Theory solution is really nice. Employ all the tricks & tips & play our very best. Thanks for the insight.
DeleteMiracles can happen with the effort & intent of the people to save relations.
Very good read Anita!
ReplyDeleteOne has to work for solutions, any problem solved easily is not a problem.
Thanks Indrani.
DeleteYes, very true. We have to put in sincere effort for solutions. If there were no problems, we would never enjoy the solutions :)
People will never know the whole story and give you advice that might not suit your situation. So, try to resolve issues yourself. Read more, absorb more, learn from people around you - that's my mantra.
ReplyDeleteThat's absolutely right, Nisha. People don't know our story as well as we do.
DeleteYour mantra of self-help is cool. We have to be open to learn and grow.
Totally agree with the image above. Like they say,
ReplyDelete"Don’t tell your problems to people: eighty percent don’t care, and the other twenty percent are glad you have them."
Brilliant take on this age old tamasha! :)
That's a very relevant quote, Soumya. Had read it earlier. Should have included it in my Post :)
DeleteThanks :)
True Ashwini. There is great power in prayer.
ReplyDeleteMany of us believe that God will take care of our problems. But, also true is the fact that 'God helps those who help themselves.' May we all have the strength to help ourselves solve problems.
Very thought provoking post Anita.We need to be cautious what we share and with whome .
ReplyDeleteThanks Induji :) Absolutely. We have to exercise discretion...
DeleteThat is a very thoughtful post ma'am :)
ReplyDeleteI hope you will have 0 problems too in your life ahead!
Thanks Bhavya :)
DeleteWishing the very best for you too! May we have 100% Solutions :)
Its always true with any relationship. Its the trust between the two which keeps you going. But sharing things with ur close friends will help one take it positively and not battle it inside you to the extent of depression!!
ReplyDeleteWelcome to my Blog, Dipti!
DeleteThanks for sharing your views. Agree with you that trust & close friends make it easy. But, hope they are close enough not to spill the beans. Depression is a horrid thing that can culminate in suicide.
May we all have great friends and a great life! :)
Thoughtful Post...!!!
ReplyDeleteI really don't mind my loved one interfere with my problems.
Because problems can cause anxiety, many people will try to avoid, ignore, or procrastinate when dealing with difficult issues in their lives.
Thanks Veena :)
DeleteLoved ones care for us and want to help us solve all our problems.
True, you have listed the right ways how people deal with problems! :)
indeed.. sometimes problems bring us down.. but then again, we appreciate the light only because we know how much darkness sucks :) here's to happier times for you :)
ReplyDeleteThat's right Shruti! It's wonderful finding the light & be enlightened :)
DeleteThanks. Happier times for you too :)
Well written. As you said the relationships are delicate and you need better understanding of each other to keep it going. Thanks for a thoughtful post.
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by Krishna :) Delighted to know that you liked it :)
DeleteAgreeing with you, relationships are very delicate... Good post Anita :)
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Sindhu
Tantu
The Arts & Me
Yes, of course. Thanks Sindhu :)
DeleteI'm not sure if there is ever one solution... different things work with different people?
ReplyDeletebut a very pertinent post :)
Yes Canary, rightly pointed out. Have to pick what's right or will work for us.
DeleteThanks :)
it's always true in relationship..appreciatted sunshine
ReplyDeleteThanks for stopping by and sharing. Appreciate it :)
DeleteThought provoking imagery!
ReplyDeleteWell written, Anita! :)
Thanks Aayesha :) Delighted :)
DeleteGood post. However, sometimes when I am faced with a really bad problem, I do discuss it with my friends. If I am utterly frustrated, and if all else fails - I write! That helps me big time!
ReplyDeleteThanks Sreesha :)
DeleteYes, Writing is very therapeutic. I practice it too. I did this time also by writing this Post. :) Received amazing insights. Thanks for sharing!
true :) you conveyed beaitifullyy
ReplyDeleteThanks you so much! Welcome to my Space. Delighted that you stopped by! Do visit often :)
Deletevery nice anitha
ReplyDeleteThanks Arul :)
DeleteGood post about relationships :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot :) Glad you liked it :)
DeleteValuable thoughts Anita. Personally I believe when you say your problems open, it worsens the situation more and the people to whom you share your problems will start judging you unless they are close ones. But that does not mean, you got sulk inside. Share them only if you need after thinking twice with confidential ones who will help you out.
ReplyDeleteThanks Uma for sharing your precious views. Yes, true that we need to share after using our brains - pick the right people to share.
Deletegreat post!
ReplyDeleteFor me it depends.... 99% problems I keep between myself and the one I love.
The 1% I might spill out to my close friends :P
Great post Anita!
Thanks Red :) Your 99-1 Rule looks cool :) Good that you are able to maintain it.
DeleteGreat discipline :)
If there is problem in your personal life and unable to solve it on your own and cannot share with anyone in that situation you should take help of an expert who has expert to solve all your life`s problem. Human`s life is full of problems and they want solution for it but it can be done by an astrologer who has knowledge about astrology , palmistry , numerology etc.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing your views.
DeleteYes, this is an alternative ancient wisdom that has had its positive effects for many people.
Our country is full of faith, love, tradition, respect and religions. Here, before starting of a good work, worship of God is the first task. Without doing it, no work can move in a positive way. People are really very afraid of their work's result. They just want the technology through which they can see their future aspects. But unfortunately, no such facility is still developed by our science or by our practical world. Astrology is the root of such facility, as it is a power to achieve your desires or your ambitions. We got success in serving these facilities very smoothly, under the guidance of Pandit Ajay Ji. http://www.astrologermaster.com
ReplyDeleteThanks for visiting & sharing.
DeleteHmm...your random thoughts are quite thought provoking actually! :) True that relationships are delicate matters that need constant nurturing and they are also the source of various problems in our life... ;) . A healthy relationship can be an inspiration to live. But sometimes ending a relationship is the solution. And sometimes not finding a proper solution brings an end to a relationship. Things are so complicated! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for reading & sharing your wise words! Yes, I agree :)
DeleteMay all our relationships be fine.